to whom it may concern~

if you notice, you’ve just entered into another stage of your life. a stage where you find it hard to cope with, a stage where you find it hard to face with, a stage where you’ll find gazillions of annoying problems just keep  gushing out and flooding you that you can barely take it, a stage where you’ll find yourself always standing at the edge of the breakdown -  a stage that you don’t really and can’t really enjoy. well… that’s the door to your adulthood

do you know why 21 year-old birthday is seen as a big thing? cause that’s the time you have your freedom and power that are meant merely for adults. amazing isn’t it? but that also means, you no longer have others to bear for your responsibilities; be it good or bad, you have to face it, you have to deal with it, cause with great power comes with great responsibilities.how you face your day, what’s the next step that you’re gonna take, what are the consequences of every single thing that you do, how to kick the unpleasant incidents out of the frame and get on with your life… you just have to learn all these lessons my dear, cause there’s no other way to avoid it. e.ve.ry. single thing that happened happened for reasons.

when you have problems with your loved ones, it’s a lesson for you to learn how to take care of each other and how to be more understanding. or maybe, it’s a lesson for you to understand yourself, a lesson for you to learn how to be responsible in a relationship, or how to love someone… it could be just anything my dear, and only you will know what’s going on. just remember one thing: the process of learning is always painstaking, but no matter how bad it is, it won’t last. just don’t keep yourself in the small dark box for too long, all right? it’s time to learn how to rely on yourself instead of running away from it. cause in real life, many’s the time you can only rely on yourself instead of others.

when you just keep having problems with other people, perhaps it’s time for you to learn how to deal with people and your very own emotions? perhaps you need to learn how to take things easily and concede in certain circumstances that you just have to?  a lesson to learn to accept people as who they are? as long as there are human, aversions exist. you can’t expect everyone to think like you, expect everyone to be as mature as you do, expect everyone to respect with courtesy, expect everyone to be efficient and effective like you do… you can’t my dear, cause everyone’s different. different species, different genes, different background, different education system, every single difference that has been integrated for years made up who she is today. so the only thing to get along with them is to accept them, ignore the bads but converge on their goods. you can’t just absorb all the negative emotions resulted from others’ mistakes and make yourself unhappy all the time can you~?! unless if that’s what you want for the rest of your life. learn to take things easily, change your perspective, be more understanding, you will be happier. and when you’ve mastered the the art of dealing with people, you’ll find out, life isn’t really about resentment, anger and complain a~ll the time

p/s: i ain’t there by your side 24/7, but i do want you to lead a good life, and i really do hope that you’re doing fine over there.

love,

chiaw chiaw ♥